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This is an interesting letter written to Dr. Laura.  The final message of marriage over shacking up and being good to your spouse..etc. is a good one. If kids are involved, you have no business shacking up! I've mentioned this several times...and I almost always get ignored. Oh well, it's not about me.

 Getting back to the letter.  One cannot dismiss the third paragraph in which the writer (who is homosexual) states " We have also had a Commitment Ceremony in our church making a declaration before God and family that we are committed to each other and our relationship. That's all we can do. We are in this for the long haul and consider ourselves a "married couple."

They may have had some sort of ceremony in their 'church'  but that by no means makes their relationship acceptable in the eyes of God. You see, The same God to whom this couple is presenting their homosexual partnership to for presumably a divine blessing, is the same God who has clearly condemned homosexual acts as taught through sacred scripture and sacred Tradition of His Church. You can't cherry pick the teachings of Jesus Christ. God is not merely a concept to which one is able to mold into something that satisfies ones needs and desires. A ceremony that takes place in a 'church' does not automatically result in something sacred and true. The fullness of Gods grace does not fall upon any and every 'ceremony' that takes place within the confines of something that calls itself  a 'church'.   Beginning in the Old Testament and into the New, God had a habit of destroying false temples and their false messages in order to rebuild them upon a foundation of truth.

So, to be clear. This is a commentary on people bringing God into situations...such as homosexual marriage, to which God is distorted and twisted to meet the needs of whatever agenda is on tap at the moment. 

Also, without knowing the couple, I can't say definitively that they are engaging in homosexual acts. I won't go so far as to see this as a generic situation and presume anything but the point still stands.


I'm still feeling pretty sick so I'll leave it at that.

Take care all

 I think I posted about this 'dating' service before. Considering how society downgrades marriage these days a site like this doesn't surprise me. Considering the constant lowering moral standards of 'dating' relationships these days, a site like this doesn't surprise me.  Anyway, I realize that many of these letters are posted on Dr Laura's website in order to stir up sales for her books "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and "Proper Care and feeding of marriage" as well as her other works.

 Having said that, many of the letters she posts describe situations that many of us have either experienced personally or witnessed with others. The books I previously mentioned were written to address the reality that is of the "good" guy who is married to an angry feminazi type. They weren't written for women who chose to marry  jerks. I am not into self help books and consider the majority of the ' pop-psych' material out there to be a complete waste ...if not dispensers of harmful so-called advice. I do however recommend Dr Laura's books highly. She just makes sense...and tends to do so  well beyond the superficial fluff and odd psychology that fills multiple shelves of the 'self help' section of your local book store. If I was ever to marry again, my personal precondition would be..... The woman MUST read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. :)  Sounds silly but it's true. 

Taken from 
http://www.drlaura.com/main/



 

This is how things are done. 

 

 Great testiment to true motherhood which begins with the child in the womb.  

A letter taken from  http://www.drlaura.com/main/

Sometimes it takes something as extreme as a life threatening illness to open our eyes to reality.  In my line of work, I am very much outnumbered by women. One thing that I have experienced is that women just love to openly discuss every aspect of their relationships with husbands/ boyfriends.  Single coworkers especially seem to lack a certain personal information filter when discussing their boyfriends.  Oh man, the stories I have heard.   From "dating" a married man to shaking up after 3 months of dating, to all the predictable fallout from the aforementioned stupidity....I have heard it all.  

Anyway, I thought this letter was insightful.  This woman finally saw the light. Sadly, it took a brush with death in order for her to look past the false messages of society and realize just how blessed she had been all along.


 

Taken from http://www.drlaura.com 

This Wife Didn't Read "The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage"

 

Interesting letter.  There is a lot of social commentary that could be done with this one but .....I'm too tired. There are many other things that I have been meaning to write about but I keep letting myself get too busy.  Must work on that. 

	Subject:	Mr. Mom & The Super Nanny
	Date:	2007-08-20
Mr. Mom & The Super Nanny Dr. Laura, I recently watched an episode of Super Nanny and what struck me was how it was politically correct to a fault. The father had quit his satisfying, successful job to stay home so that the mother could buy and own her own daycare business. Throughout the episode we saw the father despondent, barely interacting with his family, feeling no sense of accomplishment anymore. The mother was exhausted, guilty for leaving her kids, listless, and just generally miserable. The kids were talking back, using foul language, violent to their parents and bullying other kids at their own mother's daycare. The Super Nanny, in true liberal fashion, told the father he needed to feel pride in his role as homemaker, and proceeded to deal with the symptoms instead of the underlying problem. I'm not saying that mothers should never work and men should never stay at home, there are certainly situations where this is appropriate. That being said, pretending that men don't feel emasculated when they're no longer providing for their families and women don't feel emotionally disconnected when they are away from their kids doesn't change the truth of who we are as mothers and fathers. To make this switch for pure monetary reasons seems to me to be true folly. During one commercial break the Super Nanny even took the time to record a special parents tip where she admonished fathers that if they don't feel satisfied playing Mr. Mom it must be their own fault. My wife, my three boys and I live in a small 2 bedroom house in the country. It's sometimes a bit cramped but my wife is able to stay at home, she is our children's mother, and we both receive great satisfaction from the roles that we try every day to magnify. Jonathan

	Subject:	The Proper Care, Feeding, and FINDING of My Man
	Date:	2007-08-13
The Proper Care, Feeding, and FINDING of My Man Dear Dr. Laura, I am a 26 year-old independent, educated, single female and yes, I am my dog's mom! I'm generally considered too conservative for my age group and too traditional for our increasingly liberal culture, but I believe that my principles have served me well. While I've watched my friends shack up, get pregnant, collect welfare, marry, warehouse their children, nag their husbands, divorce, and then tell me that I'm 'doing it all wrong' and am 'much too picky about my dates and future man'; all I can do is shake my head. I've finally met that future man, and I have you to thank for it. Years ago you told a caller to list her expectations of her future husband; I did just that and didn't settle until I found the one who fit the bill. While my best friend struggles to change her husbands drinking habits, I don't have to change my man. While my roommate encourages her resistant boyfriend to lose weight, get healthy, and break away from his parents, I don't have to change my man. Thank G** for principles Dr. Laura, because without them I may be just like some of the people I know; unhappily married and struggling to change the man that I picked to marry. He will support me, he will be the man that encourages and even expects me to be a stay-at-home mom. He will be very good to our children, and we will raise them together based on our already similar principles regarding religion, health, education, politics, and basic child-rearing. He will be the one that still tells me I'm beautiful even when I've put on 20 baby pounds (and I'll be the wife that works those 20 pounds right back off). He won't smoke, drink, do drugs, stay out too late, keep friends of ill-repute, cheat, quite his job, no t shower for days on end, lie, get fat and lazy, be sloppy, make me get rid of my dog, or be physically aggressive in any way. He's professional, friendly, respected, intelligent, funny, hard-working, sweet, affectionate, honest, trustworthy, fit, and in my eyes ridiculously attractive. He doesn't know it yet, but in return, he will always come home to a clean house, a healthy smiling wife who rarely complains, well-adjusted happy children, and a woman who will absolutely never ever refuse him the right to some good old fashioned lovin'. He will be the one to swim across shark-infested waters to bring me a limeade; I will make darn good and sure that he still has the desire to do that even when we're dealing together with the inevitable pressures of marriage, children and work. I can't wait to be his woman. Thank you for your perspective and insight Dr. Laura, and thank you for guiding me in the right direction towards the Proper Care, Feeding, and FINDING, of my wonderful future husband. Sincerely, Caitlyn

I am back from a very nice vacation. I hope to post something on here soon. In the meantime, here is the latest entry from Dr. Laura on her blog.  I've been talking about how the family unit in America has been under attack by various forces for a long time now. This is just one more small proof that the lies our society has embraced in the past decades have done much to decay the family.  The me first attitudes, the decrease of moral standards to shameful lows,  the acceptance of just about any "alternative" lifestyle, the devaluing of life through abortion, and the overall lack of the ability to use common sense in the realm of dating relationships and married family life have all contributed towards weakening the family. 

As a sidenote, I think Dr. Lauras Books  "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" and  "The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage"  should be required reading of all potential married couples!


Is Marriage Becoming Just Independent Roommates With Sex?
August 9, 2007 on 12:00 am | In Marriage EMail This Post

I’ve written several times now about how the responsibility for children is moving lower on the priority scale to minimal status in our society.  You can see this in the flippancy with which unmarried women have children, exposing them to a life with no father and the jarring repetition of Mommy’s newest love fling.  Or the way children are thrown into institutionalized day-care from birth, or are shuttled between casually divorced parents busy with new romances and career opportunities.  You even see it with the increasing number of children left to die in the back seat of cars, because their parents forgot all about having a child in the first place!

According to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center, having children has fallen to eighth on a list of nine keys to happiness in marriage, way behind what is now considered more important, such as sharing household chores and being faithful:

1. Fidelity 2. Good sex 3. Sharing household chores 4. Adequate income 5. Good housing 6. Shared religious beliefs 7. Shared tastes and interests 8. Children 9. Agreement on politics

93% 70% 62% 53% 51% 49% 46% 41% 12%

I see these results as ominous.  If this self-centered “it’s all about what I wanna have and do, with little inconvenience or stress” attitude continues, future generations of children will suffer increasing neglect.  This neglect will cause deep emotional pain and social chaos as their “acting out of control” behaviors negatively impact American society.

Of the nine qualities these folks mention as important for a successful marriage, only one had anything to do with giving, and that is children. The rest have to do with getting.  Thoughts of division of labor and responsibilities are clearly out the window as the issue of which person might be doing more in the house than the other is more important.   That sounds more like roommates than loving spouses.

When 50% more folks think that not taking one more bag of garbage to the curb than their spouse is more important to a marriage than combining love and energies into making a family, America is in trouble.

Much of Europe is already in trouble with this mentality, with the birthrates not replacing or growing their populations.  Italy is most impacted, with most of its population considered “elderly.”

Taken from one of many Catholic web sites I visit frequently.  A little commentary on this letter coming soon.

Some Advice from a Parishioner

For the last few years I (Fr. Bugarin) have published an anonymous letter I
received from a parishioner during Lent in 2005. Usually I toss anonymous letters right away but this one escaped that fatal ending.

“Fr. Bugarin, I was very moved by your homily on Sunday, February 13, 2005, regarding Hell, Satan, and the response of faithful people to temptation. I am the father of an adult son and daughter, and it pains me to think of the mistakes my wife and I made in raising our children. We thought we had a clever, well thought out solution to the dangers and evils of the world, but instead we were victims of our over estimation of our own perceived abilities and power. In so doing we neglected the saving power and grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and the intercessory power of the Blessed Virgin Mary.

“Knowing the evils and temptations of our world, my wife and I sought to shield our children through endless activity. Like many other parents, we got our son involved in hockey and our daughter in dance; our goal was to keep our children busy and thus not give them a chance to get in trouble. However, I now realize that in engaging in a futile attempt to shield our children from battle with the Devil we were instead merely failing to equip our children for their inevitable battles with Satan. We attempted a human solution
to a spiritual problem, and our human limitations and inadequacies resulted in failure. We failed to fill our children with Christ, and instead left a vacuum too easily exploited by Satan.

“In focusing our children on endless activity we created selfish, self-centered children. By failing to involve them in Catholic charitable works we taught them to believe they were the centers of their own universes. We replaced rosaries, adoration and bible study with ice time, games and recitals. We missed Sunday masses for tournaments and catechism for performances, and we rationalized it by asserting that it was ‘for the best.’ How wrong we were.

“Today, both of our children have left the Church. Our daughter is living with a man and has had an abortion; our son has experimented with drugs and regards the Church with contempt and cynicism. Our first priority should have been to pass on the faith and to teach trust in the Lord; instead, we relied on our human intellect and put our faith in schemes of this world.

“If I could only go back in time I’d make every Sunday mass as a family, lead my family in a weekly rosary, take my children to pray in front of an abortion clinic, lead them in prayer before the Blessed Sacrament, and help them volunteer at a soup kitchen. For despite our best efforts and intentions there still were times my children were alone and lonely, tired and weak, hungry and desirous. I failed to anticipate and prepare my children for those inevitable times of temptation, and the Devil had been patiently waiting.

“Father, please print my letter in the church paper. If it will serve as a warning to at least one family it may help them to avoid the pain and regret my wife and I have experienced.

An Anonymous St. Joan of Arc Parishioner.”