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 A letter taken from http://www.drlaura.com   (under the cut)

I haven't and will not be watching this movie so I can only go by what this letter says and by what other people have told me. It sounds like porn to me. Anyway, even though movies like this that normalize immorality and promote promiscuity as an attractive idea are common, I can see a day when something like this will be looked upon with much more disdain then we currently see. I think a greater number of  women are beginning to understand that living the type of life as depicted in Sex and The City and Desperate Housewives ultimately leads to misery.  My generation has given us plenty to observe.  Nearly 50% divorce rates, shack up relationships, single or divorced women with kids living in multiple shack up relationships, children being raised by day care workers, and-on-and-on.  One problem is that parts of society have bought into moral relativism and thus something as absurd as Desperate Housewives or Sex and The City is seen as completely normal and even desirable.  A resurgence of a more radical feminism also seems to be playing a role in the attack on the true dignity of women. 

As the mistakes of my generation are witnessed by the devastated lives of an increasing number of children and women, I think there will be a return to a more conservative approach to relationships.  It may not be a majority movement but I can see it happening. Hollywood sees $$ to be made by tuning into  societal trends and thus they will change their product accordingly. Hey, it could happen. 

If I think back on the past 10 or so movies I have seen, I would have to say that my favorite ones were "kids" movies or at the most rated PG-13.  Outside of the occasional horror flick, the best movies I have seen lately were ones like Ratatouille, Chronicles Of Narnia, Harry Potter and the like. I'm wondering if other people find their taste in movies is similar? 

I haven't posted any letters taken from Dr. Laura's website http://www.drlaura.com  in awhile so here we go.  

Society would say that this woman is wasting her hard earned degree. The woman and her child would disagree. :)

Taken from Dr. Laura's blog.  http://www.drlaura.com  


 

I mention statistics because of the friendly back and forth with Josh. This post is pretty much unrelated.  This is taken from http://www.drlaura.com   Here I think we can establish more of a causal relationship with some of the stats than we saw with the pro-atheist video. Anyway.........

  C'mon now, isn't it just better all the way around to marry for the right reasons, have kids within the bounds of a committed and stable marital relationship, and not shack up? (especially after a divorce with kids).  We can do this. Society can begin to change its self- centered views on dating, marriage, morality, children and family.  This can be done. I have faith! 

I have been extremely busy lately thus my time online has been minimal. I am currently carrying a pretty heavy patient load at work and the school semester is beginning to wind down towards finals.

Here is a random letter from Dr Laura's website. http://www.drlaura.com  

This is yet one more example of the negative effects that modern day feminism has had on marriages.  What we have been seeing more and more the past 20 years is women who become selfishly absorbed in everything in their lives but their spouses. I do think that the mistakes of my generation in this area have caused many a broken home. Hopefully, people who have lived through this situation once or have witnessed it in other peoples lives will reconsider the motivations that drove their behavior so that the same mistake will not be made again. 

take care

from Dr. Laura's blog.  http://www.drlaura.com 

 

"If my parents had told me in advance that I could come to them after I had sex, and all I would receive was a big hug and a trip to the drug store, I would have had no reason to abstain."

That's part of an email from a listener, and Dr. Laura includes it in her latest blog, as she weighs the facts about abortion and some of the latest efforts by Planned Parenthood and a school in the Denver area to disdain personal responsibility and elevate freedom from consequences to a new high -- or low.

 

A letter taken from  http://www.drlaura.com/main/

Sometimes it takes something as extreme as a life threatening illness to open our eyes to reality.  In my line of work, I am very much outnumbered by women. One thing that I have experienced is that women just love to openly discuss every aspect of their relationships with husbands/ boyfriends.  Single coworkers especially seem to lack a certain personal information filter when discussing their boyfriends.  Oh man, the stories I have heard.   From "dating" a married man to shaking up after 3 months of dating, to all the predictable fallout from the aforementioned stupidity....I have heard it all.  

Anyway, I thought this letter was insightful.  This woman finally saw the light. Sadly, it took a brush with death in order for her to look past the false messages of society and realize just how blessed she had been all along.


 

Taken from http://www.drlaura.com 

This Wife Didn't Read "The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage"

 

 Taken from Dr Laura's blog.



 

Taken from Dr. Laura's blog.  As usual she makes some good points. 

 

Taken from http://www.drlaura.com/main/

 

Subject:	Opposing Bumper Stickers
Date:	2007-12-24
Opposing Bumper Stickers Hello Dr. Laura, This past Saturday I was driving through downtown Davis, CA (affectionately known as The People's Republic of Davis). There was a minivan in front of me (no doubt loaded with children), adorned with a good eight or ten bumper stickers. All of them were environmental or political in nature, but it was two that caught my attention. I had seen them before (after all, I am in the liberal bastion of Davis), but the placement of these two, side-by-side as they were, gave me cause to ponder. The first one was black, and read: "There Is No Flag Big Enough to Cover the Shame of Killing Innocent People." The only image on the bumper sticker was that of a bloody child's hand print. The second one read: "Keep Abortion Safe and Legal." The irony of having these two bumper stickers next to one another even struck my more liberally minded passenger as amazing. J.

Just a quick entry today. 

 It seems like a no brainer. There are so many reasons why shacking up is a bad idea. When kids are involved, the stakes are even higher. 

I ran into a guy I went to high school with the other day. I hadn't talked to him in over 10 years or more. As we began to catch up on what some of our former classmates are up to, I was taken by surprise a bit by the situation of one guy who I used to hang out with.  He and his first wife divorced after having two kids together. He then married a woman who had three kids already. Now he and his new wife are having a child together. To me, this is the epitome of selfishness. Unfortunately, this type of situation is so common and accepted in today's society.  What a screwed up situation for the kids.  At the very least, he did marry the second woman. 

Is it any wonder why we have so many kids with ADD, anger issues, eating disorders and difficulty relating to others, especially adults? The list of childhood psychological problems that often develop in broken homes and shack up living situations is impressive.  How many times I've heard women at work (or out in the field visiting patients) who are shacking up with some guy and are having "problems" with their kids behavior.  What is even more disturbing is when the bio parent is overly hard on the kids for not simply falling in line with the ridiculous situation in which they are forced to live. 

I do think that attitudes will change. At least I hope they do. It may take a generation for reality to kick in. Hopefully people will learn from the selfish mistakes that my generation brought upon themselves and the lives of so many children.

More on this later....well, if I can find the time. This is a good primer for going into the beautiful teachings of the catholic church on marriage. Another good topic would be Pope John Paul II's  Theology of The Body.  I would need to study up a bit on that one though. Some great theology yet very practical and relevant in regards to establishing and maintaining a real and committed relationship. 

Taken from http://www.drlaura.com/main/

Interesting letter.  There is a lot of social commentary that could be done with this one but .....I'm too tired. There are many other things that I have been meaning to write about but I keep letting myself get too busy.  Must work on that. 

	Subject:	Mr. Mom & The Super Nanny
	Date:	2007-08-20
Mr. Mom & The Super Nanny Dr. Laura, I recently watched an episode of Super Nanny and what struck me was how it was politically correct to a fault. The father had quit his satisfying, successful job to stay home so that the mother could buy and own her own daycare business. Throughout the episode we saw the father despondent, barely interacting with his family, feeling no sense of accomplishment anymore. The mother was exhausted, guilty for leaving her kids, listless, and just generally miserable. The kids were talking back, using foul language, violent to their parents and bullying other kids at their own mother's daycare. The Super Nanny, in true liberal fashion, told the father he needed to feel pride in his role as homemaker, and proceeded to deal with the symptoms instead of the underlying problem. I'm not saying that mothers should never work and men should never stay at home, there are certainly situations where this is appropriate. That being said, pretending that men don't feel emasculated when they're no longer providing for their families and women don't feel emotionally disconnected when they are away from their kids doesn't change the truth of who we are as mothers and fathers. To make this switch for pure monetary reasons seems to me to be true folly. During one commercial break the Super Nanny even took the time to record a special parents tip where she admonished fathers that if they don't feel satisfied playing Mr. Mom it must be their own fault. My wife, my three boys and I live in a small 2 bedroom house in the country. It's sometimes a bit cramped but my wife is able to stay at home, she is our children's mother, and we both receive great satisfaction from the roles that we try every day to magnify. Jonathan

I figured I would post this.  It's kinda clever.  I will try to get to the Books of the Bible post later today.



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	Subject:	The Proper Care, Feeding, and FINDING of My Man
	Date:	2007-08-13
The Proper Care, Feeding, and FINDING of My Man Dear Dr. Laura, I am a 26 year-old independent, educated, single female and yes, I am my dog's mom! I'm generally considered too conservative for my age group and too traditional for our increasingly liberal culture, but I believe that my principles have served me well. While I've watched my friends shack up, get pregnant, collect welfare, marry, warehouse their children, nag their husbands, divorce, and then tell me that I'm 'doing it all wrong' and am 'much too picky about my dates and future man'; all I can do is shake my head. I've finally met that future man, and I have you to thank for it. Years ago you told a caller to list her expectations of her future husband; I did just that and didn't settle until I found the one who fit the bill. While my best friend struggles to change her husbands drinking habits, I don't have to change my man. While my roommate encourages her resistant boyfriend to lose weight, get healthy, and break away from his parents, I don't have to change my man. Thank G** for principles Dr. Laura, because without them I may be just like some of the people I know; unhappily married and struggling to change the man that I picked to marry. He will support me, he will be the man that encourages and even expects me to be a stay-at-home mom. He will be very good to our children, and we will raise them together based on our already similar principles regarding religion, health, education, politics, and basic child-rearing. He will be the one that still tells me I'm beautiful even when I've put on 20 baby pounds (and I'll be the wife that works those 20 pounds right back off). He won't smoke, drink, do drugs, stay out too late, keep friends of ill-repute, cheat, quite his job, no t shower for days on end, lie, get fat and lazy, be sloppy, make me get rid of my dog, or be physically aggressive in any way. He's professional, friendly, respected, intelligent, funny, hard-working, sweet, affectionate, honest, trustworthy, fit, and in my eyes ridiculously attractive. He doesn't know it yet, but in return, he will always come home to a clean house, a healthy smiling wife who rarely complains, well-adjusted happy children, and a woman who will absolutely never ever refuse him the right to some good old fashioned lovin'. He will be the one to swim across shark-infested waters to bring me a limeade; I will make darn good and sure that he still has the desire to do that even when we're dealing together with the inevitable pressures of marriage, children and work. I can't wait to be his woman. Thank you for your perspective and insight Dr. Laura, and thank you for guiding me in the right direction towards the Proper Care, Feeding, and FINDING, of my wonderful future husband. Sincerely, Caitlyn

I am back from a very nice vacation. I hope to post something on here soon. In the meantime, here is the latest entry from Dr. Laura on her blog.  I've been talking about how the family unit in America has been under attack by various forces for a long time now. This is just one more small proof that the lies our society has embraced in the past decades have done much to decay the family.  The me first attitudes, the decrease of moral standards to shameful lows,  the acceptance of just about any "alternative" lifestyle, the devaluing of life through abortion, and the overall lack of the ability to use common sense in the realm of dating relationships and married family life have all contributed towards weakening the family. 

As a sidenote, I think Dr. Lauras Books  "The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands" and  "The Proper Care & Feeding of Marriage"  should be required reading of all potential married couples!


Is Marriage Becoming Just Independent Roommates With Sex?
August 9, 2007 on 12:00 am | In Marriage EMail This Post

I’ve written several times now about how the responsibility for children is moving lower on the priority scale to minimal status in our society.  You can see this in the flippancy with which unmarried women have children, exposing them to a life with no father and the jarring repetition of Mommy’s newest love fling.  Or the way children are thrown into institutionalized day-care from birth, or are shuttled between casually divorced parents busy with new romances and career opportunities.  You even see it with the increasing number of children left to die in the back seat of cars, because their parents forgot all about having a child in the first place!

According to a recent survey by the Pew Research Center, having children has fallen to eighth on a list of nine keys to happiness in marriage, way behind what is now considered more important, such as sharing household chores and being faithful:

1. Fidelity 2. Good sex 3. Sharing household chores 4. Adequate income 5. Good housing 6. Shared religious beliefs 7. Shared tastes and interests 8. Children 9. Agreement on politics

93% 70% 62% 53% 51% 49% 46% 41% 12%

I see these results as ominous.  If this self-centered “it’s all about what I wanna have and do, with little inconvenience or stress” attitude continues, future generations of children will suffer increasing neglect.  This neglect will cause deep emotional pain and social chaos as their “acting out of control” behaviors negatively impact American society.

Of the nine qualities these folks mention as important for a successful marriage, only one had anything to do with giving, and that is children. The rest have to do with getting.  Thoughts of division of labor and responsibilities are clearly out the window as the issue of which person might be doing more in the house than the other is more important.   That sounds more like roommates than loving spouses.

When 50% more folks think that not taking one more bag of garbage to the curb than their spouse is more important to a marriage than combining love and energies into making a family, America is in trouble.

Much of Europe is already in trouble with this mentality, with the birthrates not replacing or growing their populations.  Italy is most impacted, with most of its population considered “elderly.”

I liked this article from http://www.drlaura.com.  In this world of moral relativism where there are supposedly no definitive truths, I have often found myself in a discussion with someone whose views were just so out there that I honestly did not respect their ideas.. I respect their ability to express said views but it stops at that.  It is ok to disagree. If you try to please everyone, you end up standing for nothing. In this country, taking a moral stance on an issue is often equated to intolerance.  Affiliating oneself to an established authority is frequently met with the same philosophical resistance. Many people sure do have such a problem with authority.  Relativism hides from disagreement and tries to make every point of view legitimate. There are objective truths. Some are just more difficult to see and you just might have to work a bit to reveal them. In the end relativism always crumbles under the weight of it's own principles

Just some food for thought.

Take care all

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